A Letter To The Modern World Women..........

It does not come as a surprise that how in India women have jobs and not careers. When I am saying this, exceptions are everywhere.

I am writing this not to bring out an argument as to why some women ( We) do not work after marriage or after becoming mothers, rather to brush up our minds as to why we should work.

We should work for our Parents….Just like parents have dreams to see their son make it big and bring the world to them someday, so do they have for their daughters. We should work because that is what we are taught to since the age our parents sent us to schools. Our parents wanted their daughters to be well educated, financially independent, socially- active and build a name for themselves and their family in the best possible way. We are the proud face of our parents not because of whom we are married to; but because of WHO we are... Hence we should work for the ones who brought us to this place.

We should work for Ourselves….We should work because we have been growing up taking efforts to get into the best of educational institutions ,competing against our peers, working on our  interpersonal/analytical skills, developing our personality etc.

The initial 25 years of our lives are gone into self –grooming and that will only be prolific if we harness it to the full potential. It is assured to give us that sense of accomplishment and recognition that we crave for. We feel valued and less distressful in our lives. It is one opportunity to enhance our living standards.

We should work for our Family….We should work so that our family can be financially supported and our free will and individuality is not lost. We should work because we want to be known by our extended family or relatives for managing both the lives efficiently and most important "willingly".

We should work for our Kids…..We should work so that our kids know that the perfect role model can be in their home and not just on the magazine cover page .We should work so that we do not avoid discussing and debating about the day to day happenings in our society and across the globe .Kids  love to listen to stories from their mom about her workplace experiences. When a mom is managing everything with her dedication; children tend to get inspired thus imbibing excellent work ethics and is one of the liberating aspect for a quality life.

We should work for our Partner…..That was the first side our husbands / partners saw when they first met us at college or at workplace where we first fell in love with them. We should work so that he has  a friend to share his office issues , do brainstorming and resolve complex issues , be the one who can understand their share of minutiae just as we go through it. This will  allow less financial pressure , feeling more relaxed and being a companion in a real sense. Working helps build and nurture harmonious relations which is the prima facie for a successful relationship.

We should work for our Friends…..A working women can lend a helping hand to her mate in times of financial crisis or any unfortunate events. Strong social connections allow you to connect with people, become less judgmental and see LIFE beyond the four walls. There is a range of sources to find positive corroboration outside home and helps to view life with bigger and  better prospects .This may help in advancing our old age leading to a better and joyful retirement.

We should work for the Society and the Economy….We should work so that we bridge the gender gap and try to contribute to the society in our own ways. This may also help us to be a role model for the less privileged ones out there. We , women, have this general tendency to shop as for most of us it is the best stress buster and one way to feel good about ourselves. Working not only makes us feel respectable but also more responsible towards spending as it has a share of our own hard earned money. Entire nation can also better their chance of becoming stronger players in the global marketplace having Women on their board. When a women earns money, they may have more bargaining power at home. This in turn can help reduce their vulnerability to domestic violence.

We should work for the Organization….It is just a preset concept that a family suffers if the women works outside her house.

We should work because if we ever fall on hard times  we should be able to look after ourselves. While working we come up with new ideas just like many of our male colleagues, drive growth and in tough times even deliver the bottom line and get rewarded,  recognized and gain respect from our peers.

It may not necessarily mean that we should work in a very plush firm or a thorough corporate office to fit into this requirement. It can be any place where our skills, creativity, knowledge is utilized and where there are opportunities to grow .

"It is important to look at work without the glare of gender prejudice so that is easier to take charge and deliver. Personal life goals are equally important and hence planning ahead of time can alone help ease the situation" 

The quest is : Can we have it All ??? The answer is nobody has it all.

Even the most successful men in this world have never had it all. But with an understanding plus supportive partner, a helping hand at domestic work, resilient perseverance and strong-useful connections,we can attempt to strike a decent balance. 

Looking at the bigger picture and just doing our best at home and at work on day to day basis we can be happy, satisfied and live peacefully.

“Work is only one part of LIFE but a very important ONE. Our personality is tuned to work and when we stop working or going out regularly for doing useful work we become competitive mothers , complaining wives, conflicting employers to our domestic help and in a way are disappointing all those who love us for WHO we are”….